The only real elegance is in the mind ; if you’ve got that , the rest really comes from it.

– Diana Vreeland –

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RO :

Inspirata fiind de imaginea femeii moderne si feminitatea acesteia , m-am gandit sa pasesc in luna martie purtand o tinuta desprinsa din basm , care avea sa eleveze frumosul in forma sa tipica la rangul unei opere de arta. Am ales o tinuta all-white accesorizata cu o coroana de trandafiri menita sa transpuna puritatea intr-o forma vizuala. Intregul ansamblu simbolizeaza trecerea subtila de la iarna la primavara.

Albul reflecta inocenta , senzualitate si tinerete , de parca poseda o aura angelica , este nemuritor , lipsit de pasiune dar de-a dreptul captivant.

Si totusi , ce inseamna cu adevarat sa fii femeie?Nu doar o data m-am impiedicat de aceasta intrebare , total absenta din conversatiile curente.

EN:

Inspired by women and their femininity , it occurred to me that I should wear an outfit born out of a fairytale , that would elevate the typical beauty to the state of a living work of art. I chose an all-white outfit accessorized with a beautiful crown of roses that speaks about purity , it symbolises the winter melting into spring.

There must be something about white that reflects on a person’s innocence , sensuality and youth , it’s like it possesses an angelic aura . To me , white is timeless , passionless but truly beautiful .

But , what does it mean being a woman? More than once , I stumbled across this question which is nearly absent from our current conversations.

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Intotdeauna am crezut ca am o idee destul de clara cu privire la insemnatatea cuvantului “ femeie” . Multe dintre persoanele de sex feminin pe care le-am cunoscut de-a lungul timpului aveau cariere infloritoare , soti , copii , pareau fericite. Pe masura ce am crescut , am realizat ca definitia femeii merge dincolo de biologie si stereotipie , dar avand atat de multe reprezentari ale feminitatii , este greu sa decizi ce este femeia cu adevarat…

Am incercat sa creionez o definitie din perspectiva mea , dar mereu cadeam prada opiniilor celor din jur , iar rezultatul era intotdeauna acelasi : simteam ca pierd o parte din mine , nereusind sa sustrag esenta dintr-o mare de trairi contradictorii.

Dictionarul defineste , sec , femeia ca fiind  o “ persoana de sex feminin (distincta de barbat) ” , desigur ca intrebarea mea nu intarzie sa apara : este firesc ca femeia sa fie analizata in mod contant comparativ cu barbatul ?

Indiferent cum o privesti , concluzia este aceeasi: inca de la inceput , am intrat intr-un joc al contradictiilor : daca barbatii sunt mari , femeile trebuie sa fie mici , daca barbatii sunt puternici , femeile trebuie sa fie delicate si uite asa ne aflam mereu in antiteza unii cu ceilalti.

Asadar , daca barbatii tind sa detina controlul , pe cale de consecinta , femeile traiesc incercand sa se ridice la nivelul asteptarilor celor din jur , fiind victimele standardelor impuse de societate ?

I always thought I had a pretty good idea what being a woman meant. The women I’ve come to know  had successful careers , husbands , children , they seemed happy. Growing up ,deep inside , I’ve come to understand that being a woman is more than biology or stereotypes, but with all the representations of womanhood that I got, it’s hard to decide what being a woman truly means nowadays…

For some time , I’ve been trying to define womanhood ,but I always felt I was losing a part of myself as I navigated my way through other people’s definitions .

The dictionary defines the woman as “a female human being (distinguished from man)” ,so the obvious question that comes to my mind is : am I constantly going to define myself against man?

Well , anyway you look at it , ever since the very beginning , we’ve been engaging in a game of opposites : if men are big , then women must be small , if men are strong , we must be delicate , the woman is always defined in opposition to man.

So … if men are always in control , then being a woman means living with the fear of not being good enough , at least according to general belief ?

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M-am pierdut , din nou , intr-o mare de intrebari (sa recapitulam) : Ce este femeia? O persoana de sex feminin si atat?  Sotie , mama? Definita in antiteza cu barbatul sau avand individualitate proprie?

Adevarul este ca suntem atat de diferite unele de celelalte , fiecare se naste si creste in alt mediu familial , ne bucuram de experiente de viata proprii si plasam importanta pe aspecte diferite : daca unele pun familia pe primul loc, celelalte se gandesc in principal la cariera. Bagandu-ne pe toate in aceeasi cutie , ar fi o greseala teribila.

Modul in care fiecare dintre noi vede feminitatea este distinct , din acest motiv ar trebui sa-ti depasesti frica de a o defini. Femeile sunt complicate , dinamice si uneori vulnerabile , dar trebuie sa inveti sa accepti asta. Cred cu tarie ca dezavantajele cu care ne nastem ne fac mai puternice , mai bune , mai ambitioase. De foarte multe ori am spus-o si o repet : Fii recunoscatoare pentru dezavantajele tale , pentru ca ai impotriva a ce sa lupti si sa reusesti sa te autodepasesti ! [ O viata in puf roz nu-ti va forta limitele ci doar te va incuraja sa te complaci in acea situatie. ]

Cu toate acestea , a avea un comportament lady-like , nu te transforma intr-o persoana slaba , ci gratioasa.

I’ve lost myself in this sea of questions : What is a woman? A human creature distinguished from man? A wife , a mother? Defined by men or standing on her own?

The truth is , we are all different from one another , we are each born in different family environments , we have personal life experiences and we all place importance on other aspects of being a woman than the rest of us : if some of us put family first , other think about themselves and their careers. Placing all of them in the same box is a terrible mistake.

We all see womanhood in a personal way and you should go beyond the fear of defining yours. Women are complicated , dynamic and sometimes vulnerable , but you must accept it. I always thought that the disadvantages we are born with make us stronger , better , more ambitious . I often say : Be grateful for the disadvantages you were given , as you fight against them , you become a better version of yourself !

On the other hand , lady-like behavior is not weakness , it’s being gracious.

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Pentru mine cuvantul “femeie” semnifica celebrarea unicitatii , tocmai din acest motiv iubesc faptul ca sunt femeie.

Da , sunt sarcastica , amara , dar si plina de feminitate si dureros de timida uneori. Lupt pentru lucrurile in care cred si intotdeauna iau ceea ce imi apartine , sunt politicoasa din fire , nerabdatoare , obsedata de control , dar vulnerabila si sensibila in acelasi timp. Sunt dependenta de iubirea celor din jur , singuratatea ma sperie. Ma ghidez dupa intuitie si sunt un critic desavarsit , in special cu propria persoana. Cred in magie , cred ca orice este posibil : daca iti doresti cu adevarat ceva , il vei obtine mai devreme sau mai tarziu , daca nu , ceva mult mai bun este pe drum. Acestea sunt lucrurile care ma definesc , care ma diferentiaza de restul , iata propria mea varianta de feminitate , defineste-o din perspectiva ta !

To me , the word “ woman” symbolises   the celebration of uniqueness , that’s why I love being one.

Yes , I’m sarcastic , bitter but feminine and painfully shy sometimes. I fight for what I want and I always take what’s mine , I’m genuinely polite , impatient , always in control but weak and sensitive at the same time. I’m dependent on the love of the man standing near me , loneliness scares the hell out of me. I’m intuitive and a self-critic. I believe in magic , I think everything is possible : if you truly want something , it comes to you sooner or later , if not , something better is on the way. That’s just my definition of womanhood , what’s yours ?

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Din punctul meu de vedere , este in natura femeii sa fie sensibila si hotarata , puternica si vulnerabila , frumoasa si unica , o luptatoare , o opera de arta in viata . Asadar , voi concluziona prin a spune ca femeile sunt creaturi divine !

From my point of view , a woman is sensitive and assertive , both strong and weak , beautiful and unique , a fighter , a charmer , a living work of art. In conclusion , women are heavenly creatures !

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Until the next time , don’t forget to be fabulous!

XoXo ,

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Sacou / Blazer : Zara

Pantaloni / Trousers : Zara

Bluza din dantela / Lace Top : Zara

Pantofi / Heels : Zara

Accesoriu Trandafiri / Roses Crown : Magnolia

Ruj / Lipstick : M.A.C Heroine

 Photo & Retouch by Andrei Breier

* Always wear natural flowers !

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